Random Inkings

January 19, 2008

Restraint of Pen and Tongue

Filed under: Random — Little Miss @ 5:54 pm
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This is a phrase I learned a long time ago. Sometimes I’m good at applying it to myself, and sometimes I’m not. Sometimes I can see where others need to restrain themselves (see my post on Little Miss Sew N Sew). And sometimes I need to remember this in editing too. A challenge of editing is to be ruthless when slashing apart the author’s content, but the skill comes in using finesse and tact to support your decision to the author and allowing the author to feel good about what you did.

I think it boils down to something I read in an old classic, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. Always let the other man save face. Will I do that with editing? Always. Did I do that today in blogging about bitchy girls? No, probably not. I’m human. I’ll do better next time. πŸ˜‰



  1. I was going to comment on that post on your other blog, but decided to leave them here, so as to avoid some kind of weird cat fight.

    High school revisited– ugh! And usually those rare, bitchy kinds of comments are anonymous, without links. How brave. Then they go and talk about how cool they were. How they let you have it. They don’t mention the cowardly way in which it was done.

    Civil disagreements are great. As you said, you learned a few things from another reader who disagreed with you, and explained why. Mean people, however, really do suck.

    Your blogs are so wonderful and sincere, and the tone is always kind. Sorry you had to deal with that. Sounds like you did exactly the right thing. It’s your party, you can block if you want to.

    Comment by moonbeammcqueen — January 19, 2008 @ 6:35 pm | Reply

  2. Thank you, MB. I am going to post tomorrow on my other blog about what I learned from the nice comments and why they don’t exhange needles. πŸ˜‰ I do try to be sincere and kind and polite. Because bottom line, anything I say on my blog is more representative of me than anything, and one really never knows who is reading. And I welcome differing opinions. I love learning something new. Sometimes I even change my opinion.

    Comment by Little Miss — January 19, 2008 @ 7:15 pm | Reply

  3. I don’t know what you’re talking about, I thought you were fine.

    Comment by Wendy — January 19, 2008 @ 8:54 pm | Reply

  4. Thanks, Wendy. πŸ˜‰

    Comment by Little Miss — January 19, 2008 @ 10:11 pm | Reply

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