Can I just start off by asking, isn’t it Spring? Cuz if it is, around here you could have fooled me. Good God, it’s snowing again. And I won’t bore you with yet another snow picture, because I’ve posted them all over this blog and my Little Miss blog. I am soooo OVER the snow. Yes, it’s pretty. Yes, it’s peaceful. But I am just done with it.
Okay, that’s out of my system. Thanks. Moving on.
So, what about being stubborn is good? When you stick to your guns to get what you know is the right thing for you. When you are true to yourself. (Not talking material stuff here, I’m talking life goals.)
I recall being stubborn because I didn’t like the answers doctors were giving me about my fibro – before I knew what it was. I just knew it wasn’t the lame diagnosis they were all giving me because they were too lazy to look further than the obvious, which was that I need to lose about 75 pounds (or so.) I kept on pushing on, and my stubbornness to prove them right or prove them wrong paid off. Fibro wasn’t the diagnosis I was expecting – and I certainly do NOT want this crap – but at least it was a true diagnosis.
Now, I’m being stubborn in the work world. I’m sticking to my guns that I will accept only employment that allows me to work from home. This will be work through my own business as I build it, as well as through assignments that my previous employer calls me back for or another favorite agency finds for me.
I learned all about trusting myself and being true to myself this week.
A bit of background. There are two types of agencies that I’ve encountered. One is focused on simply placing you at a company as contingent staff, or staff augmentation, where they make big bucks off your work. They really don’t care so much if it’s a fit for you (and often they don’t even bother trying to figure that part out), more they just care that they place you somewhere. Then there are the agencies that are consulting firms themselves, and they essentially subcontract out some of their writing and editing work to me. This latter type of arrangement works very well for both those firms and me.
The first type of agency I just described – the contingent staff type of firm – sent me for a job interview yesterday at the Big Kahuna of Software Companies. This job was not a fit and I knew it before I even went. I just knew. My intuition told me that this firm wasn’t really interested in fitting me with the right kind of work and accommodation arrangement, but more with making a sale. I almost killed my body getting out there, the stress of sitting through interviews trying to sell myself for a job I didn’t want, and driving all the way home. I’ve been paying for it in spades today.
The lesson? I know more about myself than I think I do, sometimes. When I was telling myself in the middle of the interview that a) I did not want this job and b) I was not a good fit, why did I not just stop the process then, politely thank them for their time, and move on? Why did I not listen to myself?
Today, I wrote to the agency, told them it wasn’t a fit, and gave them my updated resume that is targeted at the kind of work I really want to do. Hopefully they will listen, but likely, I will never hear from that agency again.
The second half of the lesson? Stick to your guns. Don’t let your path get diluted and distracted by things you know in your heart will not work. Keep moving forward on the path that you know is right for you. Good things will come as you continue to be true to yourself.
(P.S. During the time it took me to write and edit this post, we have another inch of snow on the ground.)